{"id":11749,"date":"2026-03-18T05:51:00","date_gmt":"2026-03-18T04:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/?p=11749"},"modified":"2025-12-19T22:58:37","modified_gmt":"2025-12-19T21:58:37","slug":"la-culpabilite-ta-appris-ce-que-tu-devais","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/la-culpabilite-ta-appris-ce-que-tu-devais\/","title":{"rendered":"La culpabilit\u00e9 t&rsquo;a appris ce que tu \u00ab\u00a0devais\u00a0\u00bb"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>\ud835\udc74\ud835\udc90\ud835\udc8a, \ud835\udc8b\ud835\udc86 \ud835\udc97\ud835\udc82\ud835\udc8a\ud835\udc94 \ud835\udc95\ud835\udc86 \ud835\udc93\ud835\udc82\ud835\udc91\ud835\udc91\ud835\udc86\ud835\udc8d\ud835\udc86\ud835\udc93 \ud835\udc84\ud835\udc86 \u00e0 \ud835\udc92\ud835\udc96\ud835\udc90\ud835\udc8a \ud835\udc95\ud835\udc96 \ud835\udc68\ud835\udc7a \ud835\udc73\ud835\udc6c \ud835\udc6b\ud835\udc79\ud835\udc76\ud835\udc70\ud835\udc7b.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"526\" height=\"701\" src=\"https:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/image-83.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-11750\" srcset=\"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/image-83.png 526w, http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/image-83-225x300.png 225w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 526px) 100vw, 526px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Bonjour, je t&rsquo;esp\u00e8re en forme. Je te partage ce matin un texte de Marilyn Bazin<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On t\u2019a appris la culpabilit\u00e9 bien avant que tu comprennes ce que tu ressentais.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as grandi dans un monde o\u00f9 toutes les \u00e9motions des autres semblaient \u00eatre de ta responsabilit\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Une mauvaise note et on te faisait sentir que tu avais g\u00e2ch\u00e9 la soir\u00e9e.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Une b\u00eatise et tu devenais \u201cingrate\u201d, \u201cpas sage\u201d, \u201cd\u00e9cevante\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Une tentative d\u2019expliquer ton point de vue\u2026 et on t\u2019\u00e9crasait d\u2019un \u201ctais-toi\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ton corps a appris tr\u00e8s vite : si je veux qu\u2019on m\u2019aime, je dois faire attention \u00e0 tout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu n\u2019as jamais eu le droit de juste\u2026 \u00eatre un enfant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Et aujourd\u2019hui, cette vieille m\u00e9canique est partout.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu veux annuler une sortie parce que t\u2019es \u00e9puis\u00e9e, et tu t\u2019en veux d\u00e9j\u00e0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu dis non \u00e0 ta m\u00e8re et t\u2019as l\u2019impression d\u2019\u00eatre une mauvaise fille.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu demandes \u00e0 ton conjoint de t\u2019aider et tu te sens lourde.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu \u00e9l\u00e8ves un peu la voix avec tes enfants et tu passes la soir\u00e9e \u00e0 te flageller int\u00e9rieurement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu refuses un dossier impossible au travail et tu te sens coupable toute la journ\u00e9e.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La culpabilit\u00e9, chez toi, elle n\u2019attend m\u00eame plus un d\u00e9clencheur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Elle fonce avant la r\u00e9alit\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mais ce que personne ne t\u2019a jamais dit, c\u2019est \u00e7a : Tu as le droit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit de dire non sans \u00e9crire un roman d\u2019excuses derri\u00e8re.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit d\u2019\u00eatre fatigu\u00e9e sans t\u2019en vouloir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit de ne pas avoir envie, aujourd\u2019hui, ce soir, cette semaine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit de poser des limites sans trembler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit d\u2019\u00eatre une m\u00e8re imparfaite, une compagne imparfaite, une amie imparfaite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit de d\u00e9cevoir quelqu\u2019un.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit de ne pas sauver tout le monde.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit de parler, d\u2019exister, de prendre de la place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit de ne pas porter les \u00e9motions des autres sur ton dos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit d\u2019avoir besoin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit d\u2019\u00eatre vuln\u00e9rable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit d\u2019\u00eatre sensible sans t\u2019excuser mille fois.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Et surtout\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as le droit de ne plus te sentir coupable de vivre.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as pass\u00e9 toute ton enfance \u00e0 croire que le bonheur de tes parents d\u00e9pendait de toi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Aujourd\u2019hui, tu crois encore que le monde va s\u2019\u00e9crouler si tu ne t\u2019efforces pas d\u2019\u00eatre parfaite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu sais quoi ?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as suffisamment pay\u00e9 ce mensonge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La culpabilit\u00e9 n\u2019est pas une valeur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ce n\u2019est pas un signe de bont\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ce n\u2019est pas une preuve d\u2019amour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u2019est juste une trace de l\u2019enfance qui continue de piloter ta vie d\u2019adulte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Et tu as le droit, maintenant, de poser ce poids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pas demain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pas quand tu seras \u201cmeilleure\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pas quand tu auras tout r\u00e9par\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maintenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Parce que tu as donn\u00e9 assez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Parce que tu as port\u00e9 trop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Parce que tu as le droit ,enfin ,d\u2019exister pour toi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Et tu n\u2019as pas besoin d\u2019\u00eatre parfaite pour commencer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tu as juste besoin de comprendre que ta culpabilit\u00e9 n\u2019est pas ton identit\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u2019est une vieille histoire qui ne te ressemble plus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Prends soin de toi &#8211; Mabelle<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\ud835\udc74\ud835\udc90\ud835\udc8a, \ud835\udc8b\ud835\udc86 \ud835\udc97\ud835\udc82\ud835\udc8a\ud835\udc94 \ud835\udc95\ud835\udc86 \ud835\udc93\ud835\udc82\ud835\udc91\ud835\udc91\ud835\udc86\ud835\udc8d\ud835\udc86\ud835\udc93 \ud835\udc84\ud835\udc86 \u00e0 \ud835\udc92\ud835\udc96\ud835\udc90\ud835\udc8a \ud835\udc95\ud835\udc96 \ud835\udc68\ud835\udc7a \ud835\udc73\ud835\udc6c \ud835\udc6b\ud835\udc79\ud835\udc76\ud835\udc70\ud835\udc7b. Bonjour, je t&rsquo;esp\u00e8re en forme. Je te partage ce matin un texte de Marilyn Bazin On t\u2019a appris la culpabilit\u00e9 bien avant que tu comprennes ce que tu ressentais. Tu as grandi dans un monde o\u00f9 toutes les \u00e9motions des autres semblaient \u00eatre &hellip; <a href=\"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/la-culpabilite-ta-appris-ce-que-tu-devais\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continuer la lecture de <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">La culpabilit\u00e9 t&rsquo;a appris ce que tu \u00ab\u00a0devais\u00a0\u00bb<\/span>  <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[406],"tags":[1782,1168,2200,106,831,184,1082,1887,2201,665,1495,881],"class_list":["post-11749","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-coaching-de-vie","tag-bonte","tag-culpabilite","tag-dire-non","tag-emotions","tag-exister","tag-fatigue","tag-identite","tag-poser-ses-limites","tag-prendre-sa-place","tag-responsabilite","tag-sensibilite","tag-vulnerabilite"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11749","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11749"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11749\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11751,"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11749\/revisions\/11751"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11749"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11749"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/etresoi-e.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11749"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}